A couple weeks ago, I tweeted “Is everyone coming out of the closet now?”, from Raven Symone to Frank Ocean, the closet is getting roomier by the day. More importantly the question “Why were they in the closet in the first place?” echoed in my mind. One would think with celebrities like Lady Gaga and Nicki Minaj pushing the boundaries of individuality, that being yourself was actually a good thing in Hollywood. Today’s post is all about being comfortable with being Y-O-U.
Being yourself is not as difficult or as daunting as one might think, actually it is very simple and with it comes freedom. The first step to being true yourself is HONESTY. Many of us lie to others about who we are, it may be pretending to like a band we secretly loathe, or omitting facts about ourselves because we think it might impress a special someone. However, the biggest lies we tell are often the lies we tell ourselves. It is important to develop an internal dialogue and a sense of self awareness, build a solid relationship with yourself and get to know who you really are. You will find when you start being more honest with yourself and have a new understanding it makes being true to who you are simpler. Everything ultimately begins with you.
Being true to yourself also means exercising positive selfishness. Nurture your wants and needs, and don’t apologize for it. The only way you truly gain acceptance from anyone else, is the first accept yourself, and part of that acceptance is about honouring who you are in every sense. It makes little sense to compare yourself to another or to feel ashamed because you may not be on the same level as them. Stop and think for a moment, who sets these standards you live by? What makes them better or more qualified to set these standards? What gives them more power than you? If you are truly honest with yourself you will realize that we all have our shortcomings, we are all trying to figure out how to live our best life so don’t be afraid to just be yourself. As long as you aren’t causing anyone any intentional harm, you’re doing just fine
The last lesson I’ll like to leave with you is this, STOP CARING. Stop caring about what people may or may not think of you. Believe it or not most people are more concerned about how they appear to others than how others appear to them. And even when they are thinking of how you appear it is often in comparison to themselves.
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”- Dr. Seuss