I never thought being alone was the thing for me. I always felt like I was missing out by not having a large group of friends or having a significant other. 2012 was dubbed my year of new beginnings. I decided 10 months ago that I would make myself, my ultimate priority. This meant treating myself with the utmost care and respect before expecting others to do the same. To be honest when I started on this journey I wasn’t entirely sure I would make it, but I was up to the challenge.
As the months went by I found that being alone wasn’t as scary as I thought and it was in fact empowering. It gave me the time I needed to focus on my needs, something I had been neglecting for some time. I learned about my personal boundaries when it came to friendships and more importantly intimate relationships. And I had a guilt free pass to focus on achieving my goals. My own growth is what inspired me to write this post.
Many of us shy away from the idea of being alone for even one second. As soon as one relationship ends we scurry to find a next one to fill the void. There are others who simply can’t stand being physically alone with their thoughts. They always need to be surrounded by friends just to feel comfortable. What many don’t realize that the fear of being alone is really a fear of oneself. If we took the time alone, to really meditate on who we are we would find that hiding from ourselves was really holding us back this whole time.
Spending time alone is important because you get a chance to hear yourself. You aren’t distracted by the opinions of others, and you have the opportunity to find your own voice. It is easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of everything especially when we are open to a world of social pressures. Even if you take one day to yourself, to indulge maybe read a good book or take up a hobby, you will notice a greater sense of self awareness.
Take some time to yourself and see how you feel.